Dating and marriage is different than it was twenty years ago. In today’s society, more
than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that
makes “commitment” seem scary. It seems that when relationships are faced with
challenges, people quit trying. Dating is more like a marathon, trying to date as many
people as possible, instead of taking time to get to know someone at a deeper level.
For married couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years or eight
months, the outcome can be the same.
The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things do not
always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both
parties to make it a success. Often when people break off a relationship, they feel as
though something is missing. The “spark” has gone, leaving one or both people feeling
inadequate and unfulfilled.
However, even though the odds are not very good, healthy, and long-lasting
relationships are definitely possible and proven by many people. Look at Paul Newman
and Joanne Woodard, Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman, or Nancy and Ronald Regan.
What secrets do they possess? The answer is that they all work hard at their
relationship. They made a decision of choosing to love their mate rather than relying on
the “warm and fuzzy” feelings, which everyone knows will fade. By making love a
choice you are making a decision that even in the bad times, you stick it out.
Think of it like choosing a car. You pick out the make, model, year, color, and features
that you believe are best for you. After driving your car for a couple of months, you
realize that perhaps you should have purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather
seats would have been better, or on hot sunny days, the sunroof would have been nice.
However, it is now too late so you choose to keep your car and make it work. It is the
same for marriage. Not everything will be perfect and there will be major obstacles to
overcome but you have made your decision and now you choose to make it work.
There are hundreds of things you can do to better your relationship. To help get you
headed in the right direction, we have chosen 101 ways to build, strengthen, and
enhance your relationship.
Remember, little steps taken every day will add up to big successes.